Every disagreement in this studio gets navigated the same five ways, starting today. D2 learns the tool cold - not because anyone is in trouble, but because next week they'll be the ones sitting beside a Spark learner who needs it.
By 3:15 today, every learner can name the five steps without looking at the poster - and has run all five out loud with a partner at least twice.
Spot-check three learners at pickup with the poster covered. If they can't, tomorrow's launch opens with a two-minute recap.
Reading the steps is not learning them. Every learner ran the tool verbally, not just watched.
If a learner asks "am I in trouble?" at any point today, the framing slipped. Correct the framing immediately.
Standard rhythm. Greet every learner by name. The Daily Thinking Puzzle is up by the cubbies.
Bell, tidy, walk to the launch space. By Week 2 this should need no narration - if it does, narrate it once more.
Talking points, not a script. Hit these in your own words - the studio can tell the difference, and the ones that land are the ones you actually mean.
The opener (3 min):
"Hands up if you've ever had an argument that went badly." Put your own hand up first, and keep it up.
Then tell a real one. Small, true, recent, and unflattering to you - a disagreement with a friend or family member that you handled badly. Thirty seconds, no moral at the end. The studio needs to see that the tool is for everyone in the room, including the adult.
The core - the five steps (9 min):
Put the poster up. It stays on that wall all year. Walk the steps once, plainly:
The fishbowl (5 min):
Two chairs at the front. You and a returner you briefed this morning act out the same small conflict twice.
Don't narrate the difference. The contrast does the teaching by itself.
The close (3 min):
"This is not a punishment. Nobody is in trouble when we use this - it's a tool, like a wrench. And here's the part I want you to sit with: next week, some of you are going to be helping Spark learners use it. You cannot help somebody use a tool you don't know yourself. That's what today is for."
These five steps are written to match the Spark studio's version, but check them against Spark's actual poster before Tuesday and adjust the wording to match exactly. If D2 learns a slightly different version, they'll "correct" Sparks next week using the wrong words, and that undermines the whole cross-studio piece. Same tool, same language, same order.
And find out who already knows it. Some learners in the room have used this tool before - from D1, or from last year - possibly more recently than the returners who last used it in May. Ask at arrival.
Then use them: ask one of them to run the fishbowl with you rather than the returner you'd have picked by default. "You already know this - help me teach it" is a much better first day than being taught something you know.
Standard rhythm. Optional prompt for anyone stuck: "a character trait that would have helped me in an argument I've had."
Standard rhythm. PWG open before IXL opens.
Standard rhythm.
Standard rhythm. Listen for the tool showing up unprompted in a real snack-table disagreement. If it does, say nothing in the moment - save it for Character Callouts.
Standard rhythm.
Nobody learns a conflict tool during a conflict. We rehearse it while the stakes are zero so the muscle exists when the stakes aren't. Every learner runs all five steps out loud at least twice today - reading the poster is not the same as saying the words.
Round 1 - easy mode (16 min):
Easy-mode scenario cards (print, cut, bowl):
Round 2 - hard mode (14 min):
Hard-mode scenario cards:
The close (10 min):
Carry forward: The poster stays up permanently. From today onward, when a real conflict happens, the guide has exactly one line: "Do you two want to Work It Out, or do you want me to facilitate?say this exactly" Resist adding anything to it for the rest of the year.
Standard rhythm, 20 minutes.
Prime the pump if needed: has anyone seen someone use the tool for real today? Callouts for the pairs who took hard mode seriously instead of joking through it.
One question: "Which step do you think you'll be worst at?" Honest answers only. Guide answers first.
Send-off at the door, by name, with eye contact. Every learner, every day.
Talking points for this week's email. Drop these into an AI assistant along with two or three live notes from your actual week - a name, a moment, something that surprised you - and it'll give you a draft in your own voice. The specifics are what make it land; the structure below is just the scaffolding.
The draft underneath is an example of the shape and the tone, not a template to send as-is. A parent who gets the same email as every other parent can tell.
Subject: The tool we'll use all year
Hi families,
Today the studio learned Work It Out - the five-step process we'll use for every disagreement this year. Stop and breathe. Say your side. Say back what you heard before you get your turn. Swap. Agree on a fix.
We practiced it this afternoon on invented scenarios rather than real ones, on purpose - nobody learns a tool like this in the middle of an actual argument. The step everyone finds hardest is the third one, saying back what you heard. That's true of adults too.
If it's useful at home: the language is "I felt ___ when ___," and the rule is that the other person has to repeat it back before they get to make their case. Your learner can walk you through it.
Part of why we're learning this now is that in a couple of weeks, D2 learners will be helping our youngest studio use the same tool.
- [your name]